Why do we procrastinate? Why do we let something invisible get in the way of our success?
I’ve read many books on all the ways to “fix myself” and finally stop procrastinating, but none of them worked until I decided to take action and actually do something about it. If you just read this article and than go about your normal day, nothing will change. It would be crazy to think that doing the things you’ve always done will give you different results.
Have you heard of the most famous person who never stopped procrastinating? The answer is No! They never acted on their dreams and ideas so they stayed mediocre. Do you want to live your life to only achieve mediocre results? No matter how good your excuses are, they are and always will be just excuses!
However, if you actually searched for this article or even if it found you, you are one step closer to putting the stop to your old ways, to finally start living your best life and to become the best version of yourself.
In this article I will not give you simple 3 steps, 5 steps or even 10 steps to stop procrastinating so if that is what you are looking for go ahead and click of this article because there are plenty of articles and YouTube videos that give you just that and guess what, it doesn’t work! Why?
Because we are all different and there is no simple formula that will work on every single one of us. What works for me, might not work for you and vise versa. I will only give you the tools so you can identify the problem and act on it accordingly. That will require you to work on yourself, to change your beliefs, value system and the effect of your past experiences, so if you are ready, let’s begin!
Why do we procrastinate?
Fear is a real thing that stops us from moving forward. Fear is there for a reason. It is good as it protects us from getting hurt. But is it always logical? If you are putting off that paper doe, or calling your potential client, or doing the laundry that is piling up, or following your dream of becoming successful you are operating on a fear of failure and even the fear of success but it is the unknown that we are really scared of.
Face that fear by thinking of the worst case scenario. Is your boss going to jell at you, maybe even fire you? Are you going to fail the class? Are you just not going to have clean clothes to wear? Think about how you would fell if you don’t do that task that you are putting off or if you don’t achieve that goal. And than, just think if it’s worth it. Isn’t it easier if you just do what you need to do now?
Lack of time
Do me a favor, please. Stop being that person who always lacks time. If you find yourself saying ” I didn’t have time” a lot, this chapter is for you.
That statement is total nonsense because all of us have the same amount of time and there isn’t a person who has more or less time than you. That statement puts you in the victim mode and you simply can’t do anything about it. You can pay a time management expert to help you out or you can just ask yourself why did you schedule more tasks than it could be done in certain amount of time?
Learn how to say no and don’t take on more tasks than can be done. What happens if you wanted to say no and than excepted a task anyway, is that you won’t have the energy or the motivation to do it, therefor you’ll say you didn’t have time.
Divide the big task into small manageable tasks and reword yourself after achieving each one. Do the hardest one first when you are full of energy.
Make a list
Lists are important as they hold you accountable. It can also make you feel super productive as you tick off things that you’ve already done. You can also write down things you have to do tomorrow and than, just for fun, do one task of that list. It’s cheating, yes, but see how you feel about doing that the next day.
Acceptance is key
You have to understand, as I’m sure you already do, future doesn’t exist. This is the only moment that exists therefore stop putting off stuff you have to do for when the time is right and stop waiting for the perfect moment. What you decide in this moment is going to affect the future but not the other way around.
It’s not easy but you should try to just surrender and accept what has to be done. You might find yourself not resisting as much and getting things done more quickly.
Stop putting your life goals aside
Stop being so vague
Set specific goals
Make sure that they are YOUR goals, not anyone else’s
Have a good and clear reason for your life goals
Set smaller manageable goals (sub goals) that will help you achieve the big goals
Celebrate achieving every single mini goal (that will keep you motivated and you will view your journey as success)
Avoid measuring your success in material possessions
Always keep your destination in mind
Don’t be so hard on yourself (you are your biggest fan) and
Stop compering yourself to others (You are Your only competition)